Hi, I am Anca

Certified Matrescence Coach | Mother of Two | Story Listener & Space Holder

Nice to meet you, truly!

I am a woman, a mother, a daughter, a wife, a friend… and a coach.
Like you, I wear many hats. But beneath them all, I’m a human being trying to make sense of life’s biggest transitions, especially the one that changed everything for me: motherhood.

My Journey

I was born and raised in Romania, but since 2012, I have called the Netherlands my home. My life’s path wasn’t linear and, in many ways, it was motherhood that reshaped my direction.

Becoming a mother for the first time shook me to my core.
I had spent 30 years building an identity I understood and I was comfortable with. And then, almost overnight, I felt like I no longer recognised myself and my life. Who was I now? What have I done? What was I supposed to do with this baby? Can I please go back to “my life”?

I loved my child deeply. And yet, I was scared, lost, lonely and I grieved the version of life and self that I had left behind.
The drastic change in routine, the mental load, the lack of sleep, the way my body was aching and the emotional overwhelm brought waves of self-doubt, guilt, confusion and, oh so many tears.

I felt ashamed for struggling with something I thought I was “supposed” to feel “naturally“and love unconditionally.

The Turning Point

In the midst of that inner conflict, I reached out for support. Speaking with a professional, and leaning into the care of friends and family, was life-changing.

For the first time, I had space to be fully honest, without judgment.
That experience showed me how powerful it is to feel truly seen and heard, especially during a time of such profound transformation.

Through that healing process, I uncovered a new passion: Holding space for others during their own journeys of becoming.

That’s what led me to train as a coach, and eventually, become a Matrescence Coach.

Why Matrescence? And, what is it?

At this point I came to understand that motherhood is not just a role, it is a complete identity shift. It changes your mind, body, relationships, priorities… and yet, no one really prepares you for it. Moreover, there is a term for that “becoming a mother“, that few people and, especially, women know and talk about - matrescence.

Matrescence is the emotional, psychological and identity shift that happens when a woman becomes a mother. It’s like adolescence… but for motherhood. It’s not just hormones. It’s not just being tired. It’s the feeling of being changed in ways no one prepared you for.

That is where I come in.

My mission

I have made it my mission to support mothers in navigating the profound identity shift of matrescence with compassion, honesty, and courage — so they can rediscover themselves, not lose themselves, in motherhood. I create safe, nurturing spaces where women can express their truth, feel seen in their struggles, and reconnect with their inner voice.

My Philosophy

What saved me and I believe in with all my heart is that:

  • You don’t need to have it all figured out.

  • Your struggles don’t make you a bad mother, they make you human.

  • Vulnerability is strength.

  • Asking for help is not a weakness, it’s a gift to yourself.

What is your story?

If you're feeling lost, overwhelmed, or simply craving a space to breathe and be yourself, I’m here.
Let’s walk this part of your journey together.